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Hijab-Spotting

Large conference crowds are the perfect place to be alone. They’re also the best place for hijab-spotting, a relatively unknown activity that involves watching hijab styles and trying to figure out how they were created (and stay in place).

For those of you who don’t know, hijab tying and pinning ranges from being functional to an art form. There are seasonal fashions and trends, and let’s not forget the pins, clips, flowers and brooch accessories.

The basic Plain Jane pinned style scarf is timeless because of it’s simplicity, convenience. Using safety pins to stay in place, it requires no adjustment over the course of a long work day.

There is also the wrapped shawl which is easy enough for anyone; unless the shape of your head prevents it from staying on in which case you use the undercap solution. But let’s face it, who likes to have their ears squished? The real danger of this style is actually the straight pins used to secure it- those things are painful when accidently encountered during a greeting hug.

Caps, babushkas and dupattas are not going away anytime soon either.

If you notice, there is no mention of the Amira one-piecer. If you’re older than 10, not playing a sport and still wearing an Amira you need a hijab intervention. And no, the Kuwaiti Amira is not better.

So what are some of the newer hijab trends? The summer favorite Turkish style is mostly over, except by the Turks of course! The new style in the Americas seems to be the Khaleeji multi-layer, looser wraparound that in extreme cases looks like a blanket attacking your head. Great for Canadian winters no doubt (for warm and toasty ears),  but definitely not a good option in DC in the summer with humidity and 100+F days (your head might melt off your shoulders).

Flowers, brooches and chandelier-earring style pins- dangling anywhere between the ear and the chin- are mostly cute and functional, except when you see them as decoration on niqabs. Don’t do it my niqabi sisters, it’s like hanging a Christmas ornament on a palm tree. Your crazy bright patterned scarves under your niqabs are distracting enough, bling just makes it worse. Why attract attention to yourself when you are trying to avoid it?

The African turbans are beautiful as always and their ability to defy gravity during sajdah and ruku is marvelous.

The worst trend so far is the camel hump hairstyle under the hijab. High pony-tails and buns do not naturally achieve such heights. It is entirely possible however that those larger-than-their-head-bumps are hiding dreadlocks and that unbeknown to all, dreads have suddenly become very fashionable for the young muhajjibah.

No matter what style you choose for your cover, go forth sisters and may the force be with your hijabbing!

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A time to reflect

After listening to “Jingle Bells” and accounts of Rudolph’s ruddy nose in every public place, now is a good time to stop and remember!

A friend wrote this piece about Mary and Jesus in the Qur’an and kindly gave permission to reproduce it here.

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I thought it apropos on this day to reflect upon the Qur’anic account of the Blessed Mary and the miraculous birth of Jesus, peace be with them both. 

In Chapter 3 of the Qur’an, Surah Aal-`Imran, (Family of Amraam), which is about the Abrahamic family of Amraam, at the apex of whose lineage is Jesus, we learn not only about the lofty station of Mary, but also about the glad tidings of Jesus’s birth.  In particular, in the Qur’an (3:42) we read:

  • Behold! the angels said: "O Mary! God has chosen you and purified you—chosen you above the women of all nations.

Just a few verses later are about the glad tidings of Jesus’s miraculous birth as well as some the miracles that he performed (Qur’an, 3:45-51):

  • Behold! the angels said: "O Mary! God gives you glad tidings of a Word from Him: his name will be Christ Jesus, the son of Mary, held in honor in this world and in the Hereafter, and of (the company of) those nearest to God; 
  • "He shall speak to the people in childhood and in maturity. And he shall be (of the company) of the righteous."
  • She said: "O my Lord! How shall I have a son when no man has touched me?" 
  • He said: "Even so: God creates what He wills: When He has decreed a plan, He but says to it, ‘Be,’ and it is! 
  • "And God will teach him (Jesus) the Book and Wisdom, the Law and the Gospel.
  • "And (appoint him) a messenger to the Children of Israel, (with the message that): "’I have come to you, with a Sign from your Lord, in that I make for you out of clay, as it were, the figure of a bird, and breathe into it, and it becomes a bird by God’s leave: And I heal those born blind, and the lepers, and I quicken the dead, by God’s leave; and I declare to you what you eat, and what you store in your houses. Surely therein is a Sign for you if you did believe; 
  • "’(I have come to you), to attest the Law which was before me. And to make lawful to you part of what was (heretofore) forbidden to you; I have come to you with a Sign from your Lord. So be conscious of God, and obey me.
  • "’It is God Who is my Lord and your Lord; then worship Him. This is the straight path.’" 

Chapter 19 of the Qur’an is titled "Surah Maryam," named in honor of the Virgin Mary.  A description of the miraculous birth of Jesus is described in verses 23-33. 

You’ll find that this story is at variance with the account adopted in the Christian tradition.  In particular, according to the Qur’anic account, Jesus spoke as an infant in the cradle—a miracle intended by God to exonerate the Blessed Mary from accusations of adultery.

Surah Maryam (Mary, 19:23-33):

  • When “the throes of childbirth drove [Mary] to the trunk of the palm tree, she [despaired], exclaiming: ‘Oh would that I had died before this, and had become a thing forgotten, utterly forgotten.’
  • Then [Jesus, the infant] called unto her from below, saying: Grieve not! Your Lord Sustainer has placed a rivulet flowing beneath you. Shake the trunk of the palm tree toward you, to cause fresh, ripe dates to fall upon you. 
  • So eat, drink, and be consoled. And if you meet any mortal, say: ‘Lo! I have vowed a fast unto the Beneficent, and may not speak this day to any mortal.”
  • And in time she returned to her people, carrying the child with her. 
  • They said, ‘Oh Mary, you have indeed done an amazing thing! 
  • ‘Oh sister of Aaron, your father was not a wicked man, nor your mother a woman unchaste.’
  • Thereupon she pointed to the child.
  • But they exclaimed: ‘How can we talk to one who as yet is a little boy in the cradle?’
  • [But] he said: ‘Behold, I am a servant of God. He has vouchsafed unto me revelation and made me a prophet.
  • ‘‘And made me blessed, wherever I may be.
  • ‘And He has enjoined upon me prayer and charity as long as I live.
  • ‘And [has endowed me with] piety toward my mother, and not made me haughty or bereft of grace.
  • ‘‘Hence, peace was upon me the day I was born, [and shall remain with me to] the day of my death, and the day I’m raised to life again.’
  • Such was, in truth, Jesus the son of Mary, about whom they so deeply disagree.

I wish all of you a blessed new year.

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The immigrant Muslim American Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is that wonderful yearly holiday when American families bond over food and enjoy the typical dysfunction and drama that invariably happens when people related by blood come together. For immigrants, Thanksgiving is the day when everything is shut down except for Chinese takeout and all their non-immigrant friends are hanging out with family to eat a big bird that they had never seen before they came to these shores.

Often coming from cultures where holidays are either celebrations (religious or otherwise) or days of remembrance (e.g. birth or death anniversaries of national heroes) shared with everyone around them, they’ve mostly never come across a national holiday dedicated solely to staying home with family, eating and watching TV.

Over the past few decades immigrant Muslim Americans have evolved their own unique Thanksgiving culture, replete with tandoori turkey, pumpkin pie, baklava, friends, open houses and Thanksgiving-hopping.

A simple fact in life is that if you don’t have family around you, you simply create your own "family" through networks of friends. They help you, take care of you, join you at moments of joy and sorrow, and come over for turkey in November. Since everyone wants to play host it means there are LOTS of invitations and as you cannot offend anyone you accept them all. And thus is borne the tradition of Thanksgiving-hopping.

Similar to the way Eid is celebrated where families spend the day visiting elders and friends and eating dessert at every home, Thanksgiving is when you go to several homes sampling turkey and pie before you depart to your next destination.

At the end of the day you have eaten more food than you thought it was humanly possible to consume, spent time with people whom you love even though they irritate the heck out of you and you fall asleep clutching your bottle of Tums. Only to wake up early the next morning for prayers, and because at least one woman in your life wants to make it for the early-bird sales special at the mall.

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Ten Things You Don’t Know about the H1N1 Virus

This is a re-blog of a post authored by Jessica Leibman on the Big Think website.


Are you suffering from “Swine Flu Fatigue?” If so, you may be experiencing the following symptoms: Upon hearing the phrase “H1N1” you feel suddenly lethargic, bored and lack interest. Don’t be alarmed. It’s because you’ve spent the last several months being inundated with information about the disease. The only news that overshadowed the H1N1 virus (ironically, at its peak) was the death of Michael Jackson, says Dr. Neil Fishman, Director of Healthcare Epidemiology and Infection Control at the University of Pennsylvania. With the help of Big Think’s pandemics experts, we’ve sorted through the chaos and put together a list of little-known facts about H1N1 – ones you truly need to know. To watch our trusted experts hash out the details Big Think style, check out their exclusive discussion.

  • It could get bad. Really bad. While the Centers for Disease Control calculate that the number of deaths over the next two years could range from 90,000 to several hundred thousand, the World Health Organization believes H1N1 is still in the “early stages” of a new pandemic. They estimate that 2 billion people (one-third of the world’s population) could be infected over the next two years.
  • Older people are less affected by H1N1 because they’ve had it – many times.Dr. Peter Palese of Mount Sinai School of Medicine, a Big Think expert, says people over the age of 55 have built up an immunity against swine flu. Why? The viruses that circulated 50 years ago are more closely related to the swine-origin H1N1 viruses than are present day seasonal H1N1 viruses. So exposure to the earlier viruses gives them protection.
  • Screening for fevers at airports might be a waste. Unlike SARS, a surprisingly low percentage of H1N1 patients actually suffer from fevers, says Big Think panel expert Barry Bloom of Harvard School of Public Health.
  • Contrary to popular belief, the injectable H1N1 vaccine is not a live virus. So says U. Penn’s Dr. Neil Fishman. The injection generates an immune response to make the person feel like he has the flu. The nasal vaccine, on the other hand, is a live virus, but the virus is mutated so it can only replicate at lower temperatures (at the front of the nose). Once it makes its way into a persons lungs, it can’t replicate.
  • The vaccine won’t be one prick. Scientists believe the H1N1 vaccine will be most effective if administered in two doses that are three weeks apart. That won’t get you out of your regular seasonal vaccine, though, which has to be in a separate dosage.
  • Alternative medicine practitioners are getting in the act.  Dr. Arun Bhasme, the vice president of Central Council of Homeopathy in New Delhi, claims thathomeopathy can treat H1N1 patients more rapidly than any other vaccine. There are seven to ten drugs (including Glesemicum, Breionia Alba, Aresenicum naplus and Beladona) on the radar.
  • Tamiflu might hurt children more than it helps. Researchers at Oxford conducted trials of the treatment, which included 248 infected kids. For children under 12, the side-effects outweighed the benefits. 51% reported side-effects (of those, 31% felt sick, 24% suffered headaches, 21% had stomach aches). Peter Holden, the British Medical Association’s H1N1 expert questions the overuse of Tamiflu: “The threshold for getting Tamiflu should be quite high.”
  • Pregnant women face a dangerous dilemma: they are at the highest risk of becoming ill from swine flu, but nobody in that group will have a chance to test the vaccine. Why? Testing any type of vaccine or drug on pregnant women (and their babies) poses an ethical dilemma – and always has. Dr. Ruth Faden, Executive Director of the Berman Institute of Bioethics at Johns Hopkins, says, “Medicine is flying blind in many cases. Many of the drugs that women take in pregnancy because they’re seriously ill, we just have no evidence what the impact is for them or what the impact will be for their babies.”

The best place to go for information? There are tons of websites out there with handy tips, statistics and roundups of – sometimes false – information. For a comprehensive one-stop shop, Dr. Fishman recommends Flu.gov.

If you haven’t watched our full panel discussion, you’re no expert … yet.

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Martin Luther King, Jr Day

Yesterday was Martin Luther King, Jr day in the US. It is the third Monday each January, commemorating the birth of Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr on January 15, 1929. He was an iconic civil rights leader who would have been 80 years old this year if he had not been assassinated at a young 39 years of age.

America would have been a different place if the civil rights movement had not happened. In fact, much of the moral high ground that the US claims nowadays is because of what America became after the 60s because of leaders like MLK, Jr.

One year ago around this same time, we were participating in an MLK interfaith peace walk in Leesburg and talking to Obama supporters about voting for change. This year has been considerably less eventful in sunny Riyadh as we watch inauguration activities on television . Let’s see what next year will bring!

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Happy 200th Birthday Edgar Allan Poe!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Edgar_Allan_Poe

 

He was 26 when he married his 13 year old cousin- maybe he had some tribal blood in him !! :-)

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Living in a Desert

Nothing drives home the reality of living in the desert like dryness. Winter is worse than summer in terms of dryness. Skin is dry and flaky, lips are chapped. No amount of lotion or moisturizer seems to be enough. Every morning one wakes up with a parched and hurting throat.

With highs in the 60s (~15-18^C) and lows in the 40s (~5-8^C), heaters are needed once in a while in the evenings/early mornings. This makes the dryness even worse.

Running the humidifier non-stop is unable to raise the moisture levels above a particular level. Opening doors or using the exhaust fans in bathrooms or kitchen makes the humidity level drop immediately.

On the plus side, no open bag of chips, crisps, popcorn, cookies etc ever becomes soggy :-)

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Expiration date

Unfortunately it is not uncommon that food and medicines sold in grocery stores and pharmacies will be past their expiration date. This happens at virtually EVERY outlet either through carelessness or because the stores are trying to make money and do not pull the expired items off the shelves.

As there is virtually no consumer protection around here, it is extremely important that you always check before you make the purchase. Frozen goods should have production and expiration dates printed on them. Canned goods also have expiration dates specifying their shelf life. Special care should be taken with fresh meat and vegetables. Promotional items, especially meat, are highly suspect. One store employee even quietly told us to avoid buying meat at the promo sections as it is almost always past its date.

Remember, your first line of protection against tainted food is always your own vigilance. Take the extra 20 sec and check the expiration dates before you purchase!

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Dash

yet another crazy “self-analysis” quiz result

You Are a Dash

Your life is fast paced and varied. You are realistic, down to earth, and very honest.
You’re often busy doing something interesting, and what you do changes quickly.
You have many facets to your personality, and you connect them together well.
You have a ton of interests. While some of them are a bit offbeat, they all tie together well.
You friends rely on you to bring novelty and excitement to their lives.
(And while you’re the most interesting person they know, they can’t help feeling like they don’t know you well.)
You excel in: Anything to do with money
You get along best with: the Exclamation Point

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Blog update

Today is cleanup day! All food related and personal posts have been moved off to their own blog. Categories have been consolidated and removed as needed. 

 

updated: Jan 18, 2009

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